How To Tell If You Have Postcoital Dysphoria

Several people may not have an idea of what postcoital dysphoria mean but they do know that they feel a wave of disgust about their partner or themselves once they cum. And no its not because their partner is irritating or because they are ugly but it is an issue rooted in their mind.

Consider this story as an example. My wife thinks I hate her after sex. When she goes to clean up in the toilet and she comes out, I feel like running out of the room. Before sex, my wife is very beautiful and cute and all but after sex she becomes very ugly. I don’t even want her to touch me or look at me or cuddle me.

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If this story resonates with you, TBN is telling you that you are not possessed. You only have postcoital dysphoria and it refers to a sexual dysfunction involving negative emotions such as melancholy, irritability, distress and depression, associated with fits of crying and a need to escape at the end of a previously satisfactory consensual sexual relationship under every aspect.

While a post sex clarity may not be your fault, it is still not fair to your partner who needs intimacy after sex. But you can’t solve your problem if you are not even aware that you have one. That said, here are ways you can tell if you have that sexual dusfunction that makes you cringe after sex with your partner.

You have postcoital dysphoria if you experience feelings of sadness, agitation, anger, irritation and depression after sex. You may also experience bouts of crying, anxiety, feelings of shame, emotional tiredness, regret, guilt and emptiness after sex.

These feelings may come from other stressors in your life but you must understand that they are not being fair to your partner. Having said that, here are strategies to combat your postcoital dysphoria condition. First, therapy may be your solution as the condition itself is rooted in the mind as a deep psychological issue.

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Sessions with a sex therapist might be all you need to get past that. Secondly, tell your partner about your struggles. Communicating your feelings helps preserve your partners sanity in a situation like that. If you are shying away from cuddling after sex, telling your partner will help them understand the time to want to do that.

That way, you don’t push them away and stomp on their ego. Finally, focus on activities that calms and distracts from how you are feeling such as taking a bathe, watching a movie and talking with your partner.