My Mum Caught My Dad Sleeping With A 16 Year Old In Our House

Dear Tee, I just find out why my mum chased away my friends and their mum16 years ago. I was 16 at the time and both of my friends aged 16 and 14 at the time alongside their mother was living with us while they went through a divorce. They lived with us for two months until one night.

I was at a sleepover at one of  friend’s house one night only to return in the morning to see them gone. The excuse I got at the time was that the older one being 16 had tried to make a move on my dad in the house. She absolutely slandered that poor girl’s name but somehow I didn’t pursue it.

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Years later I asked my mum about the incident  because I was convinced that I didn’t get the truth but dhe wouldn’t say. So I reached out to her and we met up and I got the true story. I could see the pain in her eyes. She never made a move on my dad. It was the opposite. She told me they’d been drinking on the property then went skinny dipping.

All while my mother was in bed pregnant with my sister. They had made their way into the house and upstairs. Where eventually my mother walked in on them. I let her know I had her back if she ever decided to do anything about it. She said she’d been in therapy for years because of my father. That he did it in such a loving way, it really fucked her up.

I know my mum knew what my dad did to a minor who had just lost her family was not okay but why would she cover it up? She and my dad are still together to date and now  that I am a mum,  it’s all I’ve been able to think about. They still don’t know that I know the truth. It’s reawakened the rage in me.

Especially all of the teenage rage they made me shove down for so long. Because if anyone did that to my daughter, or if I caught my husband in that situation, HELL NO. It was easy to shove down before because I learned from the best. 

I want to bring it up to my mom but she would just get angry and talk shit. She’d probably say the past is the past and I need to let it go. That people can change. But I know he hasn’t changed due to events over the recent years with his anger and control issues. He’s a very big narcissist who believes he can do no wrong whatsoever.

And my mother is so far up his ass. It makes me wonder if the 16yo was his only victim. If she was, and if he’s never done it again, would that be okay? Is this forgivable? Because I don’t feel like it is.I want to tell the whole family, but I feel like they’d just downplay it and make me seem absurd. Cut me off and turn my siblings against me. They’ve done it before when I called them out on other things. So, here I am. Just needing to get it out I guess. What would you do?