Six People Tell Us Why They Are Still Obsessed With Their Ex

TBN understands that when a relationship ends, people are often obsessed with their ex so much that they fail to understand they are withholding themselves from a better future and better life. Today, we spoke to five people on why they are still hung up on their exes, here is their reply.

Amelia

We dated for five years and in those years, he was the best thing in my life. He was also the happiest and safest, I had ever felt because he made me soften and accept that I do need love and companionship. I was a better person when he loved me and I feel like losing him has taken all that was good out of me. I feel weak and pathetic. My life has gotten so much worse after our break up and I have managed to “do what needs to be done”.  Now, that he is gone, I’m even worse than I started with and I am holding on because I feel if he comes back, my life will be better again. It kills me that he seems so happy and moved on.

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Chioma

I had an online long-distance relationship that started in 2022 and we were together for a year and two months without seeing each other until he ghosted me suddenly. I had already come to terms with him ghosting ages ago and I thought I was never going to hear from him. But he reached out last weekend and confessed that he still has feelings for me and is willing to move to my location for me. I felt like he went from 0 to 100 quickly. It seems now that I am obsessed with my ex. Because I keep thinking about him all the time and wondering if he will come.

Tobi

I think mostly loneliness. I am so used to sharing memes, photos, and what is happening in my life and work with her and all of a sudden she disappears from my life without closure.  It feels like I am mourning someone close to me, except that I know she is alive and going on with her life.

John

I believe because I loved her and when she walked away from me, I felt like life had no meaning.  She knew almost EVERYTHING about me and it was always her and me against the world. Now I am very much obsessed with my ex and I stalk her social media pages. I keep fantasizing about her and it simply hurts so bad. To even think about starting all over AGAIN with someone new fills me with dread.

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Princess

I think I made my partner the source of my happiness and gave up a life of my own. My work was centred around him instead of my passions and hobbies. When we broke up, the source of my happiness was gone and I felt so lost that I didn’t even know what I was doing with my life again. I kept thinking about him and the funny part is, I know he was not good for me but I couldn’t help but think about him.

Nelson

For me, it’s that I don’t accept rejection well and it becomes a representation of that rejection that I feel I need to “fix”. Because I don’t like what it says about me that I’m not good enough, unworthy, or other me are superior to me). Me being obsessed with my ex is also because I have an anxious attachment style as against hee avoidant attachment issues. I am always wondering why she couldn’t commit to me but I am not taking her back if she comes back.