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How To Tell If You Have Postcoital Dysphoria

Ekenechukwu Eyimegwu November 14, 2024

Several people may not have an idea of what postcoital dysphoria mean but they do know that they feel a wave of disgust about their partner or themselves once they cum. And no its not because their partner is irritating or because they are ugly but it is an issue rooted in their mind.

Consider this story as an example. My wife thinks I hate her after sex. When she goes to clean up in the toilet and she comes out, I feel like running out of the room. Before sex, my wife is very beautiful and cute and all but after sex she becomes very ugly. I don’t even want her to touch me or look at me or cuddle me.

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If this story resonates with you, TBN is telling you that you are not possessed. You only have postcoital dysphoria and it refers to a sexual dysfunction involving negative emotions such as melancholy, irritability, distress and depression, associated with fits of crying and a need to escape at the end of a previously satisfactory consensual sexual relationship under every aspect.

While a post sex clarity may not be your fault, it is still not fair to your partner who needs intimacy after sex. But you can’t solve your problem if you are not even aware that you have one. That said, here are ways you can tell if you have that sexual dusfunction that makes you cringe after sex with your partner.

You have postcoital dysphoria if you experience feelings of sadness, agitation, anger, irritation and depression after sex. You may also experience bouts of crying, anxiety, feelings of shame, emotional tiredness, regret, guilt and emptiness after sex.

These feelings may come from other stressors in your life but you must understand that they are not being fair to your partner. Having said that, here are strategies to combat your postcoital dysphoria condition. First, therapy may be your solution as the condition itself is rooted in the mind as a deep psychological issue.

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Sessions with a sex therapist might be all you need to get past that. Secondly, tell your partner about your struggles. Communicating your feelings helps preserve your partners sanity in a situation like that. If you are shying away from cuddling after sex, telling your partner will help them understand the time to want to do that.

That way, you don’t push them away and stomp on their ego. Finally, focus on activities that calms and distracts from how you are feeling such as taking a bathe, watching a movie and talking with your partner.

Three Things You Should Never Put On Your Face

Ekenechukwu Eyimegwu November 11, 2024

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We get it that you want your face to be acne-free, radiant and glowing but there are things you should never put on your face to achieve this. This is because they could make things worse or turn your once-good face to do everything you don’t want.

To avoid this, you need to ensure that you turn deaf ears to all the beauty hacks you might be seeing online. Particularly as they may be coming from unqualified individuals who may not know much about skin care and whose advice can cause significant damage.

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To keep it simple, we have curated three specific things that should not be on your face, if you need to maintain your glow. And if you are wondering if you get your facial care in check, make sure to read this article to the very end. That said, here are things you should ensure never get on your face.

Do not put toothpaste on your face: several people have been advised to use toothpaste to cure their acne but instead of a cure it can lead to breakout. Even brushing your teeth after cleansing your face can do more harm than good. Toothpaste residues left on the face clogs the skin causing acne breakouts. Therefore, brush before you cleanse your face.

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Avoid using physical exfoliant: For a glowy skin, one of the things to avoid putting on your face is a physical exfoliant or bathing sponge. They can remove dirt on your face but they more damage than good. They cause micro-tears and irritate your skin. Chemical exfoliants like AHAs and BHAs which are gentler and effective on your skin are advised if you are going for smooth, glowy look!

Wearing makeup overnight: Did you have an event and you got home tired. And you didn’t want to get into those layers of cleansing. You might rethink your decision if you know that carrying makeup overnight or not cleansing them properly does more harm than good. Makeup blocks your skin from its overnight repairing mode. So always rethink your decision to wear it to bed.

Five Reasons Not To Get Back With An Ex

Ekenechukwu Eyimegwu November 6, 2024

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Relationships end for a reason and like it or not, its part of reasons not to get back with an ex. We say this especially if you are the dumpee and if you have not done anything that warranted the breakup. If this is you, TBN can assure you that the best cause of action is to move forward.

That is not to say people should not try again after the first romance ends. People are overly dynamic and so time apart my be all that’s needed to decide if a relationship is worth another try. Regardless of the circumstances, getting back with an ex is tricky and so you should be careful.

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TBN does not recommend getting back with an ex especially those who treated you badly, gaslighted you and gave a blow to your self-esteem. You might want them back but that’s not love. Its trauma bond and you should focus on healing. That said, here are some reasons not to get back with an ex.

They will leave again: The saying that you should never let someone tell you twice they don’t want you is true. And that’s what you are asking for when you get back with an ex. A breakup is a well-thought-out process and they decided that they don’t want your love and your connection and everything you’ve had together then. If they don’t address their issues, the pattern will play out again.

They came back out of loneliness: one of the major reasons not to get back with an ex is that they don’t come back with the right motivation. They might be lonely after their next relationship fails and they start thinking of how you made them feel important. Don’t be a backup plan. If they leave, shut the door FOREVER.

They believed they can find someone better than you: You don’t want someone who sees you as replaceable. And when they don’t find that person better they come back to you. The downside is if they ever find that person perceived to be better. They will leave again.

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They believed you are not worth a fight: Part of reasons not to get back with an ex is that they quit on you. You may not have done anything wrong or even if you did so long it’s not cheating and they refused to work things out, you don’t need them. Relationship takes work and as soon one person stops putting in the effort, it fails.

You need to teach them a lesson: In a world where everyone craves deep connection but sabotages it when it comes, people need to learn not to give up on people who love them unconditionally. This is different from revenge. People must learn the hard way and that is to let them mourn the loss of you forever.

Four Benefits Of Cuddling With Your Partner

Ekenechukwu Eyimegwu November 4, 2024

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You may not know it but their several benefits of cuddling with your partner. Cuddling is so therapeutic to your mental health and it is also helpful to your relationship in terms of facilitating physical closeness and improving the emotional bond between you both.

Unfortunately, several people are not taking advantage of the fact that they have a partner. They are so used to being on the road every morning that they forget several things that having a partner in their life does for them. Most even spend time quarrelling with their significant others.

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Instead of engaging in acts that make their life easier like cuddling, communicating and relaxing with their partner. This post is curated to inform our readers of the many benefits of cuddling with your partner. Instead of that argument, get in bed and start cuddling.

It enhances mood: picture this, you are having a mood swing and you have been irritated all day. Surprisingly your love comes home and you jump into bed and get in his arms. The next thing is you are relaxed and satiated. Cuddling releases the feel-good neurotransmitters serotonin and dopamine, which regulate good mood.

Stress and anxiety reduction: One of the many benefits of cuddling with your partner is that you can wave stress and anxiety goodbye. Cuddling releases another neurotransmitter known as Oxytocin which reduces stress hormones. Are you stressed or anxious? Then it’s time to cuddle up.

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Improves your sleep quality: if you are relaxed and less stressed, then your sleep quality will objectively be increased. That’s what cuddling with your partner does for you. You will be so relaxed and free if you are with your love cradling and hugging each other. this leads to better sleep.

Strengthen emotional bonds between partners: Part of the benefits of cuddling with your partner is the ensuing closeness and intimacy needed for healthy relationships. Everyone wants to be a lot closer to their partner and build trust and emotional intimacy. This is achievable with cuddling.

You Are Not Dying! You May Just Have A Broken Heart Syndrome You Are Not Dying! You May Just Have A Broken Heart Syndrome

You Are Not Dying! You May Just Have A Broken Heart Syndrome

Ekenechukwu Eyimegwu November 2, 2024

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It might not look like it but broken heart syndrome is real. And maybe that’s all the heart related symptoms you had when the love of your life suddenly left you. And you wake up sleek with sweat and heart pounding.

Don’t fret, it might not be a heart attack. Maybe its not even your love leaving you, it could be that you have experienced a traumatic event that resulted in emotional trauma related stress. For example, facing bankruptcy, death of your loved one and the universal heartbreak.

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These could trigger broken heart syndrome or what is medically known as stress-induced cardiomyopathy or Takotsubo cardiomyopathy. But fear not you are not dying or at least not yet. But it is important to have it checked out in the hospital because it comess with all the symptoms of heart attack.

The idea is to rule off heart attack and give you the necessary treatment to relieve your stress hormones that’s not letting your heart’s ability to pump blood effectively. Now the question is how will you recognize the ailment when it starts. Early awareness gives you a fighting chance of not being called to glory prematurely.

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If you are having chest pain,palpitations, difficulty breathing, sncope, fatigue and sweating, and they are severe, then its time to go to the hospital. As stated earlier, symptoms of Broken hearts syndrome resemble that of heart attack. Therefore tests like electrocardiogram (ECG), coronary angiogram, echocardiogram and blood tests may be performed.

Finally, it is important to understand that stress in whatever capacity is not good for the human body. Always give yourself some time to relax a if you are experiencing burnout, get therepy if you are heartbroken and generally be kind to yourself.

Sleeping Tips To Maximize Productivity During The Day

Ekenechukwu Eyimegwu October 28, 2024

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It’s Monday and despite a long weekend, many people are still burned out. This can be attributed to poor sleeping habits Hence, TBN’s desire to curate sleeping tips to maximize productivity during the day. These tips are beneficial to individuals from all works of life.

It is not only important to sleep but that in itself is multifaced. Certain sleep does not give you the sleep you need. Poor sleep influences your health, your productivity during the day and your mood as well. Poor sleep generally leads to more sleepiness, irritability and crankiness.

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This highlights the importance of assessing your sleep. And if you discover that you have been feeling generally tired, cranky, irritable and unable to concentrate during the day, then it is time to adopt these sleeping tips to maximize productivity during the day. They include;

Reduce Intake of Caffeinated drinks: Caffeine works to block adenosine receptors which are sleep-promoting receptors in your brain. The result significantly disrupts sleep. Prolonged usage of caffeine may have detrimental effects on daytime function.

Create a sleep routine: This is one of the most important sleeping tips to maximize productivity. The human body needs at least 7 hours of sleep each night and disruption may affect daytime function. It is advisable to create a sleep routine that prepares you to sleep. For instance, eat early, bathe, brush your teeth and reduce screen time. Also, add soft music to your playlist and maybe read in bed till you sleep.

Ensure to close work at the appropriate time: If you are a remote worker, there’s a chance that the boundaries between your work and general life activities are continuously blurred. Others who work in the office may be tempted to take work home after each day, therefore it is important to draw a work-life boundary. This includes keeping work time where it’s supposed to be so you can rest properly.

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Exercise: Adequate exercise is one of the crucial sleeping tips to maximize productivity. Exercise helps you to sleep better. Ensure to exercise daily or at least 3 times every week. It may not be anything special or a hard regimen but get moving with either a walk or a jog.

Make time to relax: Stress affects both your sleep and your productivity. Extreme stress can lead to burnout and fatigue. A solution to this issue is getting adequate rest in between work schedules. A visit to the beach, lounges or a simple day relaxing with a movie may do the trick.

Dating Tips For Single Mothers

Ekenechukwu Eyimegwu October 17, 2024

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Giving dating tips to single mothers is quite tricky and that’s because its entirely up to their partner to decide if that’s the relationship they want to be in. Also, it is the moms who have custody of the child so whoever becomes a significant other has to accommodate the child or children.

And this decision is entirely up to them but there are ways single mothers can tweak this to their favour. And that includes understanding that having a child in no way undermines their value as a woman. Thankfully, the world is becoming quite modernized and many people are no longer averse to women with kids.

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One of the dating tips that could work in your favour during the early stage of your relationship with any man is to first tell him about your child or children. Perhaps you have been on a couple of dates and you feel the romance is becoming quite serious, it is time to talk about your child.

After telling him about your child. You must continue to talk about it during conversations. Make and include the child in any plan, that way, he would understand that your child is a priority in your life and that it is non negotiable. Some single mothers shy aware from these topics at the early stage, only to later start to rant when such later becomes a problem in the future.

These dating tips are important because it helps you decipher if this man is capable of loving your child and treating him well if the relationship will lead to marriage. It is advised to watch out for cues that the relationship will eventually or likely lead to marriage. If it seems so, please ask the person jokingly or seriously if your child will be accommodated in his house after marriage.

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Asking will help you know whether to sacrifice the relationship and save your child or to give out your child to save your relationship. Remember it is not a must that your partner will accept your child but it shows that he does not love you. He can’t claim to love you but frowns at your child. If he loves he wouldn’t ask you to abandon your child if he must marry you.

Single mothers! Understand that love is unconditional. The moment your partner has some conditions attached to it, then it’s no longer love but a contract. Perhaps one of the most important dating tips for you is that he is not doing you a favour. You are not damaged product so stop thinking less of yourself.

Five Foods That Lower Blood Pressure

Ekenechukwu Eyimegwu October 16, 2024

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Do you know that there are foods that lower blood pressure? If yes, then continue reading to find out how you can incorporate them into your diet. If the answer is no, then it is time to understand how some food you eat can play a role in heart health.

Blood pressure or hypertension will be used interchangeably in this text and often describes a condition that is detrimental to health. A high status increases the risk of heart disease, stroke, and other serious conditions particularly now that it is posing a serious issue in today’s world.

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But have a good cheer! There are foods that lower blood pressure but they should never be substituted for medicine if you have already been diagnosed. They can only work in conjunction with your pills and help you reduce blood pressure by impacting your blood vessel function, fluid balance, and overall heart health.

That said, below are foods that can generally promote your heart health and push that hypertension away to the barest minimum. I have further added how these food items will be incorporated into your diet. Understand that your body is like a machine, take care of it before it breaks down.

Bananas: Bananas are mostly everyone’s delight but do you know it is part of foods that lower blood pressure? How is it possible? It enables the human body to create a balance between sodium and potassium due to its high potassium content. There’s more, you can add them into your diet in different ways such as fruit salad, eating as a fruit, adding to your breakfast like pancakes and cereals or blending into smoothies.

Beets: Several people only remember beets when they want to add a pop of colour to their foods. However, beats are perfect for controlling hypertension. With its nitrates content, it is suitable for enhancing blood flow when converted into nitric oxide. You can add them to your diet by juicing, blending them into smoothies, salads and soups.

Leafy greens: leafy greens are part of the versatile foods that can lower blood pressure. And they are far easier to incorporate into your diet. Leafy greens contain potassium that helps the body balance sodium in the body. Leafy greens can be used in smoothies, salads, soups, stews, etc.

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Berries: Another fruit you shouldn’t ignore in your diet is berries. Their flavonoids and nitric oxide content are instrumental in fighting hypertension and lower blood pressure. Brries can form part of your breakfast options by snacking on them, adding in smoothies, cereals, and fruit salads.

Oats: Oats are part of foods that lower blood pressure. Yet several people are abandoning them as a breakfast option for cereals. With an oa-rich diet, one can kiss goodbye to high cholesterol levels and enhance heart health. Oats can be eaten with berries and added to smoothies, pancakes, etc.

Tips To Navigate Surviving In This Nigeria Crisis As A Provider

Ekenechukwu Eyimegwu October 14, 2024

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The Nigeria crisis has seen both Married Couples especially the provider and singles finding ways to survive and thrive in the current situation. However, most are still finding it difficult and that’s because they are fighting to hold on to things that stress them.

TBN understands how crucial it is to discover ways to try to deal with the current situation. And in this edition, we have detailed a few tips to help navigate some challenges. These tips can also apply to singles who are intentional about revamping their way of life. That said, here are tips to navigate the Nigeria crisis as a provider.

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Budget-friendly school for kids: Every parent wants to give their kids the best but some schools they enrol their children in may be unnecessarily expensive but not effective. The tip is to find a school where you can comfortably pay their fees without stress but ensure that they get an effective learning experience as well.

Don’t Stay in an overpriced apartment: As a provider, understand that living in a large space regardless of priceI not wise especially when there are no kids. Until these kids come, live in an apartment you can afford to renew your rent without developing high blood pressure. Even if they come, if it’s one room you can afford, pride in it.

Eat what you can afford: It is important to align your eating habits to your pocket. If you can not afford meat, find other protein alternatives like fishs and stick fish. The key thing is to eat within your means. When your income increases, you can adjust to that.

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Do not succumb to pressure: As a provider, don’t be pressurized and forced by your wife to live above your means. She may want you to enroll your children in the same school your neighbor enrolled theirs so they won’t be left behind, even when you can’t afford the fees. Do not allow yourself to be swayed. It’s you who will bear the brunt.

Finally, as the provider, ensure to take charge of your life and live within your means. It is important to get a good partner for yourself. The moment you end up with a broke woman with high taste and standard, driven by competition you will die early.

What To Do If Your Partner Is Not Prioritising You

Ekenechukwu Eyimegwu October 11, 2024

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The world is so fast-paced and people are hustling to earn a living. However, your partner can never be too busy for you if they truly love you or have regard for you. They will always find time to communicate, talk and spend time together.

Now if that’s not the case between you and your man or woman, there’s definitely something going on that you are not aware of. It is important to look out for cues on what is happening around you to make a decision on what you want to do about your situation.

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The problem with most people is that they can’t read the warning signs on the wall. And as such you take disrespect in the name of relationship. One way to know if your partner is prioritising you is through the flow of calls between the two of you.

If you notice you are the one making all that calls and they still don’t pick your calls. They also don’t call you back and always have the “I was very busy” reply to justify their actions, it is high time to you recognize that they no longer value you and its time to make that difficult decision.

If your partner no longer wants to speak with you, it is clear he or she you has someone they can’t miss their calls without returning their calls the very second they see the notification. Don’t let low esteem and lack of respect for yourself to open yourself up for more ridicule.

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There is a thin line between humility and stupidity. You can’t claim to be in a relationship, yet, you are the one doing all the calling and chatting first. The month you fail to call, the other person won’t call or chat you up. Common sense didn’t tell you that you are now dating yourself?

Don’t buy that flimsy busy excuse your partner is giving you. If not you will stress and make effort to make the relationship work only to be blindsided with their wedding two weeks after you summon courage to leave them. Value yourself to earn respect of people you hang out with. Once you notice your input is higher than their output, it is time for a rethink and possible move on.

Lifestyle

How To Tell If You Have Postcoital Dysphoria

Three Things You Should Never Put On Your Face

Five Reasons Not To Get Back With An Ex

Four Benefits Of Cuddling With Your Partner

You Are Not Dying! You May Just Have A Broken Heart Syndrome

Sleeping Tips To Maximize Productivity During The Day

Dating Tips For Single Mothers

Five Foods That Lower Blood Pressure

Tips To Navigate Surviving In This Nigeria Crisis As A Provider

What To Do If Your Partner Is Not Prioritising You

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