Lifestyle

Last Week , we detailed the first part of things to do as a single woman in your thirties.We believe these points are necessary whether you are still waiting  for the one or you have decided to be single for a while. Whichever one understand that your life  has already started and start living.

That said, one key thing about being in that age range without being married is that your have to fight off pressure from your family and society. Good news, society are beginning to wind down  a little in terms of prejudice. If is you you have to convince one if being single will be the death of you. Here are things to do.

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Upgrade: You need to upgrade yourself. Maybe nothing expensive but I vest in things you can afford it. This upgrade can be making efforts to improve your self. In fact , as a single woman in her thirties, make mental, physical or financial changes that will reflect the changes you seek.

Go global: As much as society’s hold on women  are reducing, you need to align you without the mindset of the global world. In your thirties, you’re at the age of opportunities with several scholarships, fellowships and networking programmes targeting your age range. Take advantage of them before they disappear.

Indulge: Your life as a single woman in her thirties is already full of responsibilities and work. Therefore its time to start focusing on your own pleasure. Create your own pleasure by indulging in things that make you happy. Buy sexy underwear because you can. Wear them and enjoy the feel and look even without an audience.

Befriend: Don’t navigate life alone. Put your focus on building a network of friends like you. Connect with people who are focused, driven and yet knows how to have fun. Make experiences together and make life better for each of you

Dispel the pressure: Block your ears to the pressures and proddings from your family. As a single woman, many will come to you on advice about marriage. Even match makes you. don’t listen to that aunty. Don’t let your mother put you under pressure either. If marriage happens, enjoy it but before then, insist you must enjoy your singleness.

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Understand that age is ALWAYS on your side: if you’re female, ignore the biological clock. It isn’t a great reason to marry. If you’re deeply worried about this, freeze your eggs. It’s not so costly. But age is on your side because it brings along with it wisdom, ability and self-awareness amongst other things.

Don’t be with the wrong man: Normalize saying no to low-value men. If that man who continuously degrades proposes and you agree, do you think the degradation will truly stop? The answer is no. You have a whole life ahead of you, so if that propose is not what you want for genuine reasons, don’t say yes. Turn it down. Don’t lower the standard because age is not on your side.

Is it not weird how our society makes it look like a single woman in her thirties is an expired good with no value? While this view is no longer much of a mainstream idea, we can’t deny that in some parts of the country and somehow underneath everything, women still fear clocking 30 because of it.

Understand one thing, meeting and marrying the love of your life is one of the best things that could happen to anyone. But what if you are not lucky? Would you go for mediocre just to answer Missus? Or would you hold your head strong and continue on your purpose while you wait?

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This post is for the latter. A strong empowered single woman who’d rather keep her standards than accept a low-value man. These fourteen points are things to focus on while you wait and if you feel that the biological clock is still ticking, we included some points on things that could help as well. That said, here are things to focus on as a single-thirties woman.

Make money: Thirties are the optimal age for productivity and so you should take advantage of it. Instead of wallowing in despair, it is the time to create the future that you desire and for your kids should you want to have them outside marriage. Having money will solve most of the problems you will face. So get that promotion that can increase your salary, build a business and invest your money

Travel: You can only be miserable if you are at home bemoaning your fate. Being a single woman in your thirties is an opportunity to see the world and explore. The world is so vast and there are so many opportunities out there that will widen your perspective, help me meet new people, learn different cultures etc. That itself can help you find the one or help decide if you don’t want one.

Take care of your body: Imagine if you are in your thirties and you are looking like a 20-year-old. That’s what caring for your body does. Exercise, eat healthily, avoid alcohol, and avoid situations that stress you.  These activities help you recognize yourself as that fine babe you have always been and help remain in love with yourself.

Develop yourself professionally:  You need money and lots of it to increase your earning power, it will be better to learn new skills. You can focus on signing up for a course or getting an extra degree or certification. And the good news to all of this is that there’s no one stopping you. You own your time and life. So you can be more.

Treat Yourself: You work too much for your money as a single woman not to enjoy it. If you can pay for your life, remember to splurge on yourself and buy yourself nice stuff. Buy that house, that nice car, those form-fitting clothes, accessories and jewellery. A high-value man will never be intimidated.

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Hobby: There are no kids yet taking your time and no husband yet. So what do you do with all your free time especially when you close from work? That’s what a hobby does. Find something you enjoy doing and do it wholly. You’ve always wanted to dance? Learn it. You like to paint? Get art supplies. You like music, immerse yourself in it.

Live: Your life started the day you were born. You only become more aware of it as you get older. Don’t keep waiting as if life happens at a different time. You are living already. Get on with it, have fun, make friends. Enjoy your life, there’s no other magic waiting to happen. You are the magic already.