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Dear Tee, I recently found out that my daughter’s best friend‘s dad is a sex offender and that he is violent. This is the back story. I and my family moved to a new house and we have a father and daughter of my child’s age living in the next house alongside a live-in older woman nanny.

We were happy that our daughter would have a play partner and they clicked almost immediately. For weeks, their friendship blossomed and they were doing sleepovers at my house sometimes and at her friend’s houses too. However, we noticed, that the other neighbours were gossiping.

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And I summoned the courage to ask what was going on. I asked our other neighbour who had no child and she blatantly told me I was messing around with my daughter’s life. Apparently,  her best friend’s dad is a sex offender and not so many years had passed since the incident.

He slept with a 15 year old when he was 27 at the time. And I don’t know what to do with his daughter’s friendship with mine. I just want advice on what to tell her about why she can’t go over to their house anymore. Nothing has happened to her by the way she’s been briefed on things to watch out for and tell us numerous times and we’ve asked her since finding out this information.

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I know its not her friends fault that her father is a sex offender and I obviously can’t tell her what happened and why I want to separate them. But my priority is my daughter because she spends every day she can with this friend. He also has a domestic violence charge from this year and is separated from his wife. That makes me quite uncomfortable.

What I am thinking is to either pull the plug on the relationship because of her friend’s sex offender father or make my home more inviting and take the girls out to parks and things to get them to want to come to our place more often. I also have been thinking it’s better not to give her details to protect their friendship and her friend’s reputation at school.

My best friend, Jane who lives out of town suddenly called that she was in my town. According to her, she came to visit a potential boyfriend for a weekend and because we hadn’t seen each other in months she decided to let me know.

Originally, she planned to stay with the dude but at the last minute, she called again and asked if he could crash at our place instead. Her reason was that she wasn’t really feeling the dude. My boyfriend and I stay together. I didn’t think it was a big deal since we have a guest room, and we have been friends for so long.

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So I asked my boyfriend if my best friend could stay even though he was out with friends when she called. However, something happened that made me question if I made the right decision. After he arrived home that evening, we all hung out for a while, catching up and then he went inside to freshen up.

He already had dinner so I whipped up something for me and my friend to eat. I instructed her that my boyfriend’s timezone for work starts around 12 that he usually likes to work naked in his studies and that she should not come out of her room once it’s midnight which she agreed.

I went in for the night cuddling with my man until it was time for his shift. He works as a remote network engineer and he is on the midnight shift. Around 2 am, I woke up to check in on him which I usually do but at different time intervals depending on the time I get up only to see my best friend in the study chatting with him still naked.

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She was wearing her skimpy nightie and looked totally ruffled and guilty. I was furious and told her to get out of my house that morning. She wasn’t happy about it and said I was being paranoid and I needed to chill that nothing happened. My boyfriend claimed the same but I still insisted she left and she did that morning.

After my best friend left, my man kept saying I did not trust him and that he was angry I would accuse him of such. He has been distant and I have not called my friend. Did I overreact? Now, I’m wondering if I should’ve handled it differently.

Dear Tee, I have something that’s been bothering me and I don’t know how to react. Right now, I am giving him the silent treatment but I would need to make a decision fast on what next to do after my husband and his sister stole my business idea.

I am very upset at the moment and I am in between making a decision that might affect how our life will turn out. I am currently a stay-at-home wife and my. I have three kids and the plan was to finish birthing our kids before I will start a business.

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It is time for that considering our decision to have only three kids. So one day, my husband and I were talking about what I intended to do. I told him about a business idea I have worked on including a plane, a name and a feasibility study I did in my spare time. He told me he was ecstatic about the idea and I’m so smart.

We spoke about the start date and the first phase alongside money which he agreed to finance while I pay back in instalments when I insisted I wanted the business to be entirely mine. He said thank God for me. He kept praising me until 4 weeks later when his sister came to the house With company documents.

She dropped it off and left and I decided to check what it was about. It turns out that my husband and his sister had registered the company and started implementing the business idea and plans. They even used the same name I wanted. He added our children’s names as directors but not mine my name is not on anything at all.

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He is not accepting what he did is wrong. It is my business idea. How can he do this to me? I communicated my feelings toward what he did and he said what is his is mine and if anything happens to him I will inherit everything. I feel betrayed and I want to leave him. But I am not sure if this is enough reason to.

I have a trust fund from my parents which I have not touched and my parents are well tod. I also have substantial savings which are money gifts from my parents, siblings and friends. Leaving him won’t be a problem but I am not sure if it’s the right thing to do.

Dear Tee, please you and your readers should not judge me. I have a married girlfriend whom I met in the hospital and we have been together for 6 months but she is not doing what she promised. Is she deceiving me?

Like I said I met this married woman at the hospital when I took my daughter to the hospital for a routine check-up.  Iam not married but I have a daughter from an ex. I remember her looking so beautiful in a blue and white bulb that I couldn’t resist approaching her.

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Although she was wearing her wedding ring, it’s like her energy pulled me to her. That’s how she became my married girlfriend and started telling me stories about how her husband keeps cheating on her and beat her up. Her visit to the hospital was get drugs for pain.

She also mentioned that she is treating an infection she got from her husband. From the hospital encounter where we spoke for hours, to the times she was playing With my daughter and my daughter loved her instantly. My daughter always asks of her and so we started dating. my married girlfriend and I started having sex two weeks after that encounter.

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I love her so much, I would never say this to just anyone. I spent over 500k On her, my daughter loves her and misses her but last week, she blocked me on all social media, after she told me that wants to go back to her husband. She promised to leave him so we can be together.

I love this girl. In fact my married girlfriend is the best relationship I have had. I wouldn’t even think of cheating which her husband has been doing. Why would she chose that man over me? I would give her the world but she chose that man. Please help me, how do I get over her?